I posted this on the other site but I'll repost it here too.
[link=http://wiki.ffxiclopedia.org/index.php/Adventuring_Fellow_Guide]Adventuring Fellow Guide - FFXIclopedia[/link]
It has nice charts concerning weapon upgrades, affinity and quests, armor lists, headgear, and such. Some of the newer theory like region / mob type / crystal type isn't present (since it's still theory).